What if my kitty hisses when I want to pick her up?
Some things can't be rushed.
It takes time to build trust.
Just walk in kitty's pawprints for a bit:
everything that she learned to know evaporated
when she moved to her new home-
routines, companions, places, beds.
Someone is grieving that,
and when that someone hurts
often it acts out in unhappy ways.
What to do?
PATIENCE.
Trust in people is not built up over night.
A good practice is to keep kitty in the bathroom
for TWO weeks.
Gradually she becomes accustomed to what is the new normal.
Mainly she is slowly getting acquainted with her new family.
She eventually looks forward to the encounters
realizing they bring her: food
(so don't overfeed, but leave kitty happy to see you put food in her empty dish)
and interest (a game of interaction, ie: string, feather etc.)
and someont to talk to her.
Bengals are recommended for the experienced cat person
since they have a heritage of the wild
which can be more intense
in any and all aspects of cat behavior
No one likes to be grabbed,
especially in an environment
where they aren't bonded to the person yet.
You've won
when you see a slight hint of affection
one day,
which grows into an approach towards you,
then a begging to be with you.
Embolden her
by being still
and letting her "make a move/take control.
If there is no move on her part
then coax
with favorite enticing things,
such as a toy
or treat.
There are ways to move kitty
without having to pick her up
which can seem intimidating to her
especially in "scary and new " places.
A popular one is use the teaser/feather
to draw her into the next room
then reward her !
by playing a few moments there.
Keep kitty's paws away from your face
but sloped down towards the floor
in the event that she will keep her feet busy on the floor.
We think we are "teaching kitty"
when often it is "kitty teaching us"
about her likes, dislikes, and what motivates her.
In an extreme case- use a blanket/towel
and try to pet/calm her
thru the blankie
which sometimes they actually like.
In this "gadget world"
we are accustomed to instant response.
We forget about the complexity and appreciation
of personality and friendship
and how fostering and nurturing take time
but are so worth it.
http://www.wikihow.com/Form-a-Bond-With-an-Angry,-Scared-Cat